Parents are a very strong influence in the lives of children. A child’s academic performance, to a great extent, depends on parenting style, family communication patterns, the marital relationship of parents, behavior modification techniques used by parents; in short it has a lot to do with the overall behavior of parents.
Parent’s authority style:
Parents should adopt an ‘authoritative’ parenting style, also known as ‘balanced’ parenting, which is characterized by a child-centric approach. This approach is about parents encouraging their children to be independent, while being in control of their actions. In simple terms, this approach calls for a balance between being strict and lenient. Here, parents are more considerate towards their child’s needs, wishes and feelings. At the same time, they monitor and regulate their child’s behavior. Helicopter parenting causes long-term mental health problems in children and should be avoided.
Family communication pattern:
A disruptive family environment hinders a child’s ability to concentrate. A healthy and open communication pattern at home with parents is essential for a child to be able to realize their potential. Children show positive results when they are encouraged and motivated by parents. It also helps in building their self confidence.
Parents’ marital relationship:
While this might seem insignificant to most parents, in reality, the relationship between the mother and the father affect a child immensely. If the parents are always fighting, it has a negative impact on the state of mind of children. In most cases, it leads to stress which interferes with success in examinations.
Help your child create a schedule that helps him divide his time and prioritize tasks. This helps in keeping the child organized. Using to do lists and setting reminders for tasks also helps in achieving positive results.
Finally, rewarding the child for positive behavior and outcomes, which reinforces the child’s confidence, is a useful parenting tool. Parents could put a reward chart in the child’s room and use the technique of token economy. This requires parents to give tokens, in the form of rewards, for every desirable behavior of the child. This technique has been very successful in younger children. Lastly, always remember that punishment never works, rewards do. Punishment lowers a child’s self esteem, while rewards help in boosting self-confidence.